For years, I enjoyed a product called "Oatmeal to Go" from Quaker Oats. It was a special product in my life. It was a square oatmeal bar that tasted great. It had 220 calories and 4 grams of fat. And it was a very tasty breakfast product that I enjoyed just about every day for over 10 years. I'm someone who (when I like something) can eat the same meal every day without getting tired of it. And these "Oatmeal to Go" Brown Sugar Cinnamon bars were terrific. They tasted great, were filling and I came to count on them for my breakfast just about every day.
In addition to enjoying them at breakfast, they also had another special place in my life! They were an easy meal substitute when I was trying to lose weight. Whenever I wanted to shed a few pounds I'd substitute lunch or dinner with an "Oatmeal to Go" bar. And that, along with exercise, worked great at helping me drop a few pounds. Well, guess what? About a year ago Quaker Oats stopped making them! I was stunned. Yes, for years they weren't available in my local store and I had to buy them from Amazon... but I could always get them! Then, one day, they were no longer available.
It's now about a year after they became unavailable and I'm about 10 pounds heavier than I used to be, with no plan on how to lose the weight. I'm terrible at moderation... I don't stick to diet plans... yet, my "Oatmeal to Go" bars worked for me! Why did Quaker Oats do this to me? Don't they know that I need their bars to lose weight? Why? Why? Did I not buy 6 boxes at a time? Did I not have them auto-shipped to my home? I held up my end of the bargain... and yet they were still discontinued!
Since this is a blog from a therapist's website, I suppose I should have some sort of therapy "tie-in" to this story. And that tie-in is this. When we come to rely on something, we can become very attached to those things that work in our lives. And when those things change, or are taken away, it's often very difficult to adjust and be willing to find other ways that work as well. We tend to hang on to what has worked in the past and have a tendency to be stuck in old patterns, even when new patterns are available to us. Of course the moral of this story is that it's probably time I explored new breakfast items and new ways to lose weight that don't include my "Oatmeal to Go" bars. I guess I'll have to, but at least for the time being, I'm not going to like it!
David Schwartz, M.S., LMFT
David brings a wealth of life experience to his therapy practice. In addition to his therapy training, David has been a self-motivated entrepreneur for over 20 years, as well as working as a producer in the television industry.
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